I first met Parthiv when I was in my final year of college. He was my junior by two years and was the tech-wiz in his classroom. He knew a lot about websites, SEO and all that mumbo-jumbo. When we first interacted, Parthiv had asked me if I could help him make Spider-man videos. I agreed.
We met at his house over the weekend. He had set up a green screen made up of coloured paper and while I was setting up the camera, he went to suit up.
“So what are we shooting then?” I asked him.
“Oh I’m just going to do a weird dance in front of the camera,” he exclaimed.
At first, I thought Parthiv was a little cuckoo. Who was his audience for weirdly-dancing Spider-man videos? Well, come to think of it, he knew what he was doing. His clients loved his work, he reached a lot of people and his room was flooding with lots of cool merchandise. I remember fangirling over a Light-saber that hung by his bedside.
Parthiv and I kept in touch on social media but didn’t meet after I graduated from college.
When I put up a Facebook status for this feature, Parthiv reached out to me in my inbox.
He told me how he was always judged and made fun of for being skinny. He felt if he told his story, it could help people who were facing similar issues, and I couldn’t have agreed more.
I met Parthiv at his home on the following Sunday afternoon. I was lucky to catch him 5 days before he was moving to Berlin. We had a lot to catch up on.
During his interview, I absorbed a lot from Parthiv’s story.
Having suffered from borderline anorexia, Parthiv had been a skinny boy growing up. He was called names, teased and often bullied in school for his petite body and weight.
He recalls having very few friends in school because “skinny people are considered weak, so it was hard making friends.” Parthiv grew up being conscious of his body and that reflected in his antisocial and shy behaviour.
Being a superhero buff, Parthiv started drawing inspiration from those who wore capes, crawled on buildings and punched evil right in the face.
He started his own website in 2014 where he would write about superhero comics, latest movies, theories, etc. It was in the same year that Parthiv started monetising from the website. His clients sold superhero merchandise and were happy to send him products for him to review it.
Tune into the video to know the story.
One of the things that Parthiv said mirrored my ideas and why I started this feature in the first place. He said “Being skinny or fat is not a crime. It is subjective. Everyone has an opinion and you will find people who will comment or bully you everywhere. There is no escaping it. It can get really tough especially when these people are your relatives and give you unsolicited advice that will make no sense.”
The trick according to him is to accept yourself. “You were born fabulous” he exclaims.
I hope this story gives you strength and hope.
You can connect with Parthiv on Facebook and Instagram.